Firstly, intention matters and that leads to decision and that leads to committment and that is fertile soil for love to grow. And it can sprout anywhere but it all begins with intention.
Firstly, most people especially in India tend to deify their parents. One day a well-meaning person told me, "Your parents are your gods." Yes, they are. My parents definitely are. But not without their flaws.
Then people tell me things like: "You should listen to your parents." Now that's foolish.
My parents' desires are not my desires. What they want I don't want and vice versa.
It's all about respecting that individual life and let it blossom beautifully naturally.
Part of all the problems I've had with Ma is that while she's guarded her individuality she has forced me and continues to and puts pressure to make me do things I don't want to do.
I think since change begins within I should respect her individuality and stop blaming her for when she's faltered and stop expecting her to be Nargis from Mother India. She has her own strengths that are quite laudable.
No, I don't deify my parents. I see their flaws, I see their strengths and my love for them is absolute. And that allows me to be truthful and realistic about myself and my life.
It's important to be realistic and truthful. In fact, it could be the most important thing in the world deciding success or failure in every way.
If I've learnt anything most valuable from my mom and dad it is committment which tells me that they always had intention. They have built a legacy, a life together and their love has evolved into giving each other freedom while valuing fidelity and truth and of course, their committment to their shared life.
It means that behind closed doors when I didn't know my parents have shared love and stories and dreams and their desires and all that. I see them as human like that and they've grown in their committment. They share their pain openly but I hope to give them more reasons to share happiness together.
And from my parents I've learnt the value of being committed.
Arun has been committed to his wife and I don't want to pry there because I don't know. But he must have been unhappy, and so must she but they are still committed which means there is some shared happiness there. When you are committed you can build dreams together. Because two is better than one.
It's all about intention.
So what are the places and people and things in my life that I hold committment to?
Definitely my parents and their well-being and their happiness, my brother who is a Rockstar, to Arun most definitely -- I'll always honour his soul, I'm committed to our friendship, to all the other people I am friends with and work with I am also committed, I am deeply committed to life and love, and even more to my work and my career and to my goal of serving society and doing all that I think, say and do with a spirit of service, to building a secure, prosperous life and to always being a person who spreads love, joy and cheer.
That is my intention laid bare and that will build my life.
So my parents have taught me life's most important lesson-- mutual respect that leads to committment.
Love,
Me.
4.15 pm
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